Therapy for Therapists™

Therapy for Therapists™

What?!?  Therapy for therapists?  

Maybe you’ve said this to yourself, “It seems like I have my shit together.. And a therapist NEVER needs a therapist.. Right???”

Um…nope.  Completely wrong.  Just because we are therapists, that does not make you immune to being human. 

I read a slogan once, “give me a cape and a tiara and I can save the world”. For a long time that was my mantra. Chances are you’re probably feeling the same way – or even have a mug with the slogan on it.

I cannot tell you how many years I lived by that slogan, all to feel like I was not measuring up in the end.

So, let me get in your head for a moment…

You’re overwhelmed, juggling too many responsibilities, feeling like you have to fix everybody. You’re absorbing the emotional pain and trauma of your client’s day after day. Week after week. Month after month. Year after year.

Be honest… When is that time you rung out your own emotional sponge? 
Despite the fact that you give that advice to everyone you see, the one person who truly needs it the most is yourself (whether you want to admit it or not). 

So here’s the deal: 

We are perfectly imperfect and dive into “fixing” others because sometimes we cannot fix ourselves.   As a result, we often feel like IMPOSTERS living a life we would rarely support a client in doing which means we allow our shame to drive our identity.  We fix – we feel better. We meet people in very painful places but often forget that we need to take care of ourselves in the process. As long as they are ok in the end, so are we.

….self care…

Remember that word?   It is one that I mention to my grad students almost weekly in class.  However, when I mention it to helping professionals, I often get the roll of the eyes like to say, “yeah yeah – whatever”.   Don’t get me wrong – I say the same thing to friends! But in the end, part of self-care is to realize that we are bruised but not broken, but also at the end of the day: we’re HUMAN.    Therapy for Therapists ™ is a way to address your concerns and barriers in a respectful manner with someone who understands the strength it took for you to reach out.  Someone who understands how your brain works. Someone who respects what you do and is committed to partnering with you to get you to where you want to be so that you can be the clinician you were created to be.   Someone who will NEVER tell you to take a year off to reboot.   Not that a naturopathic doc said that to me once – hypothetically of course.

Imposter Syndrome is an overused term (kind of trendy in my humble opinion) but one that most clinicians, including myself feel, that I would like to help normalize.   You can be both. You can do both. You just need to take a step to ask for help.  

"Let go of who you think you're supposed to be;
embrace who you are."
- Dr. Brené Brown

What you are going to gain: 
The ability to be authentic and vulnerable with someone
Work through any emotional barriers that you might have with self-care
You’ll find that sweet spot and niche with a work/life balance
To find a balance between wearing the therapist hat and who you are at the core - without any letters behind your name, titles or academic education.

You might be initially hesitant to seek out help and support for personal matters - especially when we teach it every day all day - but being authentic means being open, raw and vulnerable so you can work through the barriers you are experiencing so that you can return to be the rock star you were created to be in working with people.   You are in this field for a reason but together we can make sure that your identity outside of the clinical space is strong, balanced, full of life and includes a hobby.    I haven’t found my hobby yet, so open to your suggestions!

If you are ready to put on your oxygen mask back on so you have more energy to help others with theirs – let’s get to work!

Asking for Help Melissa

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